Signs that say you are in a one sided relationship
When you’re in a relationship, there’s no harm in going that extra mile for your partner. It is completely okay to try your best to make them happy and to let them know that you love them to the moon and back. After all, love is selfless, isn’t it? However, you should know the difference between a selfless and a one-sided love affair. There are times when your partner loves you but lacks the ability to express, but then there are times, he or she is not interested in you but will hang in there, just because your partner either loves all the pampering you do or need someone to be there for until he/she finds the next prey. If you’re in love with someone but aren’t sure if he/she loves you the same, here are 7 signs that can help you know, if you’re in a one-sided relationship.
It’s always a one-sided conversation
When you’re in a relationship, communication is the best way to keep the spark alive. From sharing your day to day happenings to discussing your family problems, it is what makes you come closer to each other and keeps the bond strong and alive. However, if the conversation between you and your partner is always one-sided and if you are the one who is always initiating the conversation, then it’s time to take a second look at your relationship.
You apologize for everything
Are you always the one to apologize, even when you’re not the one at fault? Then that’s the biggest sign of a one-sided relationship. Love is all about feeling loved and comforted by your partner in times of distress, but when you’re in a one-sided relationship, your partner will make you feel sorry for every small thing you stress over, be it your emotional self or the stressful thoughts you can’t avoid. Instead of making you feel better about yourself, your partner will ask you to toughen up and sweep the matter under the carpet.
You have to make excuses and justify his/her actions
If you’re in a one-sided relationship, more than a lover, you become your partner’s spokesperson. For every mistake they make, for every awkward situation they create and for every family event they miss, you have to make an excuse and/or justify their actions. You have to take all the responsibility to safeguard your partner’s reputation and keep your loved ones happy too. Not only is it stressful, but it is also exhausting.
They put their friends before you
Priorities make a lot of difference in a relationship. It can tell you how dedicated your partner is towards you. In case your partner is always making plans without you or are putting their friends above you, then you are surely in a one-sided relationship. A person’s priorities speak volumes about who they respect and who they love. If you aren’t their first choice then being the second on their priority list does not make a difference at all.
They never check up on you
A simple ‘How are you?’ or ‘How was your day?’ can make a lot of difference in a person’s life. If you’re in a one-sided relationship, your partner will hardly care for your well-being and will never take a moment to ask you the same. He or she will never raise concerns about the problems you are going through or care to know if you have something to share with them.
They’re never interested in discussing issues
Relationships are never perfect. There are hundreds of problems that arise every day and it takes a lot of effort to overcome them. Therefore, it becomes crucial to discuss these problems and communicate. However, if you’re in a one-sided relationship, your partner will hardly care to talk about them. They will show no interest in overcoming these relationship problems and will instead run away from them.
You constantly feel insecure about your relationship
Insecurity arises out of doubt. Sometimes, you already know that you’re in a one-sided relationship but do not want to believe it. You look away from the signs and constantly feel insecure about your relationship. You look to people for validation instead of talking it out with your own partner. It’s high time you accept what’s coming and be strong.